Finding your Self-love
Self-love is a sense of appreciation that you can develop for yourself by supporting your physical, emotional, and spiritual growth and well-being.
Self-love or self-compassion allows you to accept yourself as a whole being. To recognize your flaws and weaknesses as well as your strengths, and to be able to show kindness and compassion for yourself as you work towards finding personal meaning and fulfilment.
Self-love develops through your thoughts and behaviours. When you shift your attitudes and beliefs from self-judgment and criticism to compassion, care and kindness you create new neural pathways for self-love to develop, integrate and grow.
You can cultivate Self-love through the following:
Mindful Self-Compassion
Mindfulness-Based Self-Compassion (MBSC) is a branch of mindfulness meditation, based on Buddhist practices of self-compassion and loving kindness.
When you are mindful about how you treat yourself and connected to what you think and feel, you can notice where your inner critic tends to block your self-love efforts with judgment.
Practising Self-compassion helps you to slow down and notice how you speak to yourself and treat yourself.
Self-compassion is not to be confused with self-pity, a sense of feeling sorry for yourself, which fosters a victim mentality. Self-pity is disempowering and leads us to believe that the world should be more accepting of us instead of empowering us to develop resilience and self-acceptance.
Self-Care
You can care for yourself by making sure that your needs are met so that you can live a healthy life with healthy relationships to the best of your ability.
Self-care should not be confused with self-indulgence. It is one thing to take care of your physical needs by nourishing yourself with healthy food, sleep, social interaction and exercise, whilst it is another thing to ‘treat yourself’ to unhealthy sugary foods, purchase comfort items or spend time gossiping with a friend to experience a momentary sense of importance.
Forgiveness
You’re a human, and like every human being throughout all of history you make mistakes. Instead of punishing yourself, can you see mistakes as an opportunity to grow and learn?
We often set our expectations of ourselves so high that they can’t be reached, which means we endlessly disappoint ourselves.
Consider setting your expectations of yourself to a human level where there is room for imperfection and see how much burden it lifts from your shoulders. Practice self-compassion and self-care when you make a mistake by acknowledging that you are human and humans make mistakes, show yourself kindness and understanding. You can also consider mistakes to be your best lessons, to be embraced as chances to learn and grow.
Purpose
Our levels of self-love is determined by your ability to live with purpose and meaning. It often takes a considerable amount of courage to you follow your heart and intuition towards activities and interactions which bring you joy, peace and connection.
Why Self-love?
When we act in ways that expand our self-love, we begin to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths, we also become more centred in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfilment through our efforts.
Over time, you will find that loving and caring for yourself becomes easier and improves your life in many ways. It’s cliche but, loving and connecting with yourself is the key to love and connection with others.
Loving yourself enables you to raise your vibrational energy and feel empowered as the creator of your life. It is key to creating a passionate, fulfilled and joyful life.
Kinesiology can help you find your self-love.
Kinesiology therapy combined with our holistic and intuitive counselling skills can help you to uncover your inner critic and embrace new, more loving patterns of thinking and behaving.
Kinesiology muscle testing allows us to work with your subconscious mind bu unlocking emotion held in the body and the energy system. We can help you let go of what is no longer serving you on the path to your self-love.
Kinesiology therapy combines Counselling, Chinese medicine, Chakra balancing, Flower essence therapy and practices such as Meditation and Yoga to maintain balance between mind and body.
Kristen Ross founded Affinity Wellness in 2007 and since has helped hundreds of clients to unlock their Inner Guidance, Unleash their potential and create lives they love.
With a history in the management of artists. Kristen had the opportunity to help guide the careers of many professional actors and artists, helping others thrive personally and professionally by connecting to their intuition and inner compass, this led her to study healing modalities such as kinesiology and counselling to enhance her work as a soul empowerment guide.
Kristen combines a striking combination of energy healing (kinesiology), counselling, coaching, dreamwork, meditation and yogic medicine practices to tap into the many facets of the self, mind, body and soul and release the layers that block her clients from accessing their intuition and self-love.
She believes that your life is your spiritual practice and that every decision you make is a part of your journey towards peace, power and enlightenment.
Everything you create and achieve comes from your ability to love and accept yourself and to do that you must engage in inner work.
Kristen currently runs a private online practice servicing individuals across Australia, New Zealand and the UK based in Melbourne, Australia.
